Experiences and relationships are useful. And negative experiences and relationships are even more essential than positive ones. The latter help us grow up, but they often influence us so much that we can’t recognise ourselves. They mould us and we get lost, we end up looking alike others.
Unsuccessful experiences, mistakes, difficult and dead-end relationships, instead, are much more educational, they are those that help us deeply understand who we want to be or, better, who we don’t want to become at all.
They make clear to us that we misjudged people or that there are persons with whom is impossible to get along. They underline who is not capable or does not want to establish a sane and respectful conversation.
Exchanges are very important, they are very useful and maybe for someone they are a sort of model – even if they insist on outdoing others with no respect for them. However, you must exchange as much as you can and live those situations so that you can comprehend how far you are ready to push yourself.
When you know where you want to land, what you want wo achieve, what is going to be your attitude and what you refuse to do, or the people you don’t want in your life because they don’t want to understand you nor make them understandable to you, then you just have to do one thing. Make a toast to them, to their honour, to your happiness, to life, to meetings, to bad days and success.
They are part of your progress, of your growth and they draw you closer to your identity.
Make a toast and be who you want, who you need to, who you are.